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[ImFromDriftwood Law Student Sent To Ex-Gay Therapy Puts Counselor To Shame]
I’m From Driftwood
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[Scott Blair:] Source: LYBIO.net
My name is Scott Blair. I’m from Ocean Grove, New Jersey. When you apply to law school these days, you can actually mark on your application if you are openly gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender. And, you know, I put that down, cause I figured why not? I was. And I did pretty well on the LSAT and so this information goes out to a bunch of law schools. And so Harvard’s gay law students group called my mother’s house because that was my address, and said, “We want to talk to Scott Blair.”
And she said, “Why?”
“Well, he’s gay. We know he’s applying to law school. We really want him to go to Harvard.” You know …
And so we’re in the car at one point, and she goes, “Scott, I got this call from Harvard Law’s gay student group saying you were gay.”
I’m like, “That’s weird. Why?”
“Well they want you to go there.”
I’m like, “Oh. Did you save the contact information?”
“Oh. How come?”
She’s like: “Well, I was hoping you were lying to them in order to get into a better law school.”
I’m like, “Well, I probably would do that if I was straight, but actually I am gay.” You know…
And she replies, “I almost want to drive this car into a tree.”
And I reply, “Can you let me get out of the car first?” And then go ahead…
It was very weird because, I still maintain that that is the best possible way for any mother to find out that their child is gay.
And even though my father is an atheist and my mother is a nominal Catholic, they joined an Orthodox Jewish ex-gay group, as well as Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays, which is an ex-gay movement, surprisingly active in New Jersey. And I looked at them and I say, “That is the opposite of the group that you are supposed to be joining right now. I’m pretty sure – they literally stole the name of the group, Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. That is the group you should be joining.” And they asked me to meet with somebody in this group – one of its leaders – you know – to sort of understand what the homosexual lifestyle was about and what being gay was about. And I thought they were crazy. You know. I still think they’re crazy for thinking that. But to humor them, I said I would go if they tried to be a little more open-minded.
So I met this guy at my father’s office in the summer of my second year of law school. And he comes in, and first sits down and he asks me, “So why are you gay?”
I’m like, “Well… I’m attracted to men.”
And he’s like, “Why are you attracted to men?”
And I’m like, “Well… probably pretty complicated. Maybe some hereditary thing. Maybe upbringing. You know, sexuality is very complicated.”
And he sort of goes into this weird diatribe about how no one has ever found a gay gene. And I’m looking at him. He tells me, “You know, every study that’s purported to find a gay gene has been authored by gays. No one else has ever found one.”
And I said, “I have no idea what studies you’re talking about, but sexuality is very complex. Everything that humans do is very complex. All a gene does is control the expression of a protein. I would be extremely shocked if one gene can control anything like that.”
And he looked at me and he’s like very confused because I don’t think that anyone had ever answered him in that manner before.
And so he continues sort of talking and he asks me about my childhood. And he says, “Well I know you’re parents are divorced. How did that affect you?”
And I said, “Look, lots of people are divorced, you know. It wasn’t great but I’m doing fine now.”
And he asked me if I hate my father for that, for the fact that my parents are divorced. And I said, “No, not really. I was raised by my father after the divorce.”
And then he asked me, “Okay. Where you – how do you feel about your mother?”
“Why do you ask?”
“Well a lot of times people who [Clears throat], excuse me, people who are angry at their mother end up being turned off of women.”
And I looked at him and I said, “Okay. If I was angry at my mother, that would make me gay, because I would be turned off of women. But you asked me how I felt about my father. My guess is what you’re going to say is that if I was angry at my father, that would make me want to seek the company of other men.”
And the guy looks at me and says, “That was often – that is often borne out by my experience.”
And I sort of blinked for a moment and said, “Isn’t that sort of contradictory? Which one of my parents I hate, which I don’t if they ever watch this, that made me gay?”
And he said, “Well it’s very complicated but basically it’s often something the parents have done.”
We tried to talk about how sexual immorality can lead to the fall of civilizations. And he brought up the Roman Empire. And I got very angry about this because, you know, half the books in my bookshelf are about the Roman Empire. And the point I made to him was the Roman Empire only fell after it became Christian. And he said, “Well they weren’t really Christian in any sense of the word that we would use today.” And I pointed out to him that St. Thomas [correction] St. Augustine was one of the most famous Christian theologists ever. And according to what this guy was telling me, he wasn’t actually a Christian. And I wanted to know what made him say that that was the case. And then he said, “Well… you know, they were very, very Catholic.”
And then I said, “You realize my mother is Catholic, right?” And he sort of then changed the conversation a little bit.
You know, one thing that he tried to do was say that gays are trying to restrict the rights of religious people by trying to make it – by trying to make it illegal to fire gays and lesbians. And I told him this is basically the same thing as saying African Americans were trying to restrict the rights of KKK members during civil rights movements. I didn’t see any difference and I still don’t see a difference.
And I – and I was sort of like, “If we’re at this point in the conversation, I don’t know what we were really talking about. All you’re doing as far as I can tell is getting everything wrong. If you want a reading list, I’m happy to give you one.”
And then he was like, “Well, thank you for your time.” Then he walked out to go talk to my father for a little bit.
And it’s actually hard not to feel a little sorry for him. Because he was gay or you know before he changed. And he changed – he claims that he realized homosexuality was immoral in the 80’s when he saw a lot of his friends dying from AIDS. And you kind of want to mock – and it’s hard to mock somebody for that because I do think that affected him. I don’t think it affected him in a healthy manner. I think there are a lot of people who had a better, more productive outcome but – you know. It’s easy to see how that would affect somebody.
[Scott Blair:] Source: L Y B I O . N E T
You know. My parents continued to be in this group for a little while longer after this happened. Uh… when he left, he told my father that I’m very much like him, which did make my father laugh a little bit. Because it’s certainly true – we both have a very strong argumentative and stubborn streak.
The relationship with my father now is interesting because we are very similar in a lot of ways. You know, but we don’t talk about my sexual life at all, or my relationships at all. It’s just a shame. The last time we talked about it, I basically told him, “I’m not changing who I am.” He can deal with it or become a smaller part of my life. So we’re seeing how that plays out.
I would tell any kid that who has to go see an ex-gay therapist or somebody who’s telling them that it’s wrong to be gay that they are smarter than somebody who thinks that and they are better than somebody who thinks that. And frankly any argument that somebody uses to support changing who you are and being straight is very, very bad. Very dumb, you know, and thirty seconds of thought will show you why it’s wrong.
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