I don’t know if this will help or not, but if you will allow me I would like to say something to you that might help in the future. You said you took her computer and IPod away from her the last time she pulled this stunt. Now you shot her computer and it wasn’t her that lost alone, so did you . The money you invested in giving her the computer, the software (which you say you will make her pay for along with the bullets that you used to put holes in her computer. ) You also lost in the financial end and she may end up more rebellious than ever. This is based purely on my experience with my kids and with other kids who have taken such drastic measures.

Another thing if she wants to get to a computer, she will. So blowing up her computer won’t change a thing. I agree with you on her chores they were not all that hard and she should have done them without complaining. what is with this about getting you a cup of coffee and having to clean up after she just did her chore od cleaning the floor and you messing it up again. If that is the case then she is right. She did what you asked of her and then you dirtied it again. You should have cleaned it up yourself. There has to be a level of compromise in the house where everything will be agreeable with all parties concerned. it can’t be a “my way or the highway” situation. Your daughter like any other kid is growing up and trying to find her own way in live and she is struggling with herself and the rules that you set down for her that seem overbearing and harsh. You and her mother needs to sit down and talk to her and tell her that you love her and want to work things out so she can not feel so “imprisoned” and that is exactly how she feels. She probably isn’t mature enough quite yet to seek a job and most people won’t hire a 15 year old . They usually start at age 16 or 17 or 18, depending on company policy. Like boys she is alos going through puberty and her world is very confusing and she is struggling to deal with her feelings of acceptance and rejection.

“I took my kids computer away from him and made him prove to me that he was capable of handling responsibility and earning the right to have the computer back.” on of the children’s parents I deal with. They came
together as a Christian family they were and wanted to understand why their son was doing almost the same thing that your daughter is doing. One thing parents forget is that they were kids once too and had the same struggles as they are going through now at that age. They forget how they felt when their parents laid down rules that seemed unfair and far too restrictive for them and what they did as an act of rebellion.

what seems to work with most parents is a form of contract between the parents and the child. Each agreeing and compromising on certain things tha the parents feel their teenager should do and letting the teenager express their feelings without reprisal on how they feel about things and then working out the agreement between them. All the parents that I have dealt with say that this really works and their teenager becomes more open with them, respectful and can then know that they cna go to their parents about what is troubling them. Putting fear and too much on a child or teenager will cause them to rebel all the more and more often than not they will run away and get caught up into a very dark world of drugs, gangs and the like and more often than not the girls eventually end up dead. This is an option for you and the results depends on how you and your daughter can come to an agreeable contract that will satisfy the both of you

The decision is up to you, you are the parent. I am telling you what works and it worked with my son as well. “I didn’t destroy the computer the father told me. I took it and locked it up until I saw that he had proven that he was responsible and wouldn’t revert back to his old ways once he had it back.” the parents told me. You will be surprised at the change that will come over time if you all work together as a family and are not overbearing to your daughter. That will drive her away from you and put a wedge between you as parents and will take years to restore…sometimes it never does. A child who is consistently rapped on for everything will soon have their self-esteem destroyed and their self-worth is washed away. The family should be a unit of love and compassion. If you are a Christian family then you should know that you should love your child as Jesus love you. Jesus doesn’t belittle another of his children because their are suffering from growing pains or make mistakes. your daughter is actually expressing how she feels emotionally, although it wasn’t in the right way it was a plea for understanding and help. Just food for thought for you. I sincerely hope this help you and your family

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